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Where are women allowed to think and feel for ourselves? That is my question

JewFem Blog: Spirituality
Elana Sztokman
Saturday, 16 September 2017
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Around this time last year, I had an exchange here on FB about head covering which eventually contributed to my feeling that Orthodoxy is a bad place for me as a woman. When I suggested to a woman who had written, "I have been covering my hair for 17 years and hate every minute of it", that perhaps if she hates something that much, she should find a way not to do it, the pushback was fast and furious. From Orthodox women! It wasn't about halakha per se. It was about the idea that I thought we should be able to follow our hearts. "If we all just did what we wanted, who would ever keep Shabbat? Or fast on Yom Kippur?" one woman wrote. "This is not a place for angry outsiders", the original poster wrote. I left the thread, and absorbed the clarity of the message. It's not that going with hair uncovered sends you to the role of "outsider" in Orthodoxy. It's the very notion of allowing yourself to think or feel for yourself.
I told this story to a reporter last week from JTA who called me to ask if she could write about my decision to become a Reform rabbi. You can read some of the rest here.
 
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Elana Sztokman

Elana Sztokman

The JewFem blog is written by the award-winning writer Dr. Elana Maryles Sztokman, former Executive Director of JOFA, the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance. Elana's books include The Men’s Section: Orthodox Jewish Men in an Egalitarian World, which won the 2012 National Jewish Book Council Award for Women's Studies, Educating in the Divine Image: Gender Issues in Orthodox Jewish Day Schools, which won the 2013 National Jewish Book Council Award for Education (co-authored with Chaya Gorsetman), and the forthcoming The War on Women in Israel: How Religious Radicalism is Stifling the Voice of a Nation Elana writes frequently at The Forward, Haaretz, The Jerusalem Post, Lilith, and more.

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Guest - Rabbi Becker (website) on Monday, 18 September 2017 19:17

Welcome to a new world. I was raised very traditional. It took me forty years from the time I said as a young girl, I want to be a rabbi, to find my way to a transdenominational rabbinical school. It opened a world of Jewish texture that allows me, thanks to my amazing Talmud teacher, to consider the intent of the law over the letter of the law. May your journey be joyful and fulfilling as you begin the new year with new vision. L'Shannah tovah umetukah

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Welcome to a new world. I was raised very traditional. It took me forty years from the time I said as a young girl, I want to be a rabbi, to find my way to a transdenominational rabbinical school. It opened a world of Jewish texture that allows me, thanks to my amazing Talmud teacher, to consider the intent of the law over the letter of the law. May your journey be joyful and fulfilling as you begin the new year with new vision. L'Shannah tovah umetukah
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